Getting married is kind of a big deal (to put it mildly!). Choosing your companion for life and tying the knot is a major rite of passage. As such, it makes sense that there are a few important steps leading up to the Big Day. For the guys, this includes The Bachelor’s Party. With capitals and in bold, because it’s a BIG thing.
Essentially, the bachelor party is a would-be groom’s opportunity to spend some time with the men in his life who mean a lot to him. After all, there is a new dynamic that emerges when you start to build a life with the love of your life.
This new space of life is special, lovely and a good thing. However, it does mean you move on, even if you don’t necessarily move geographically after the wedding. The point? The Bachelor’s Party is more than just another get-together; it’s actually a rather huge deal.
As such, it makes sense to plan it properly, pick the perfect venue for your bachelors and plan the whole event like a pro. Here are a few things to consider in the lead-up to this big occasion:
Who plans the bachelors anyways?
Traditionally, the planning of the bachelor’s party falls to the Best Man, as chosen by the groom-to-be. However, these days most people are so busy with their careers and lives in general, that many grooms choose two or three ‘support personnel’ to help the best man with his (or her!) duties.
TOP TIP: If there is any unclarity in this regard, speak up sooner rather than later. I.e. if you form part of the groom’s entourage but notice that nothing seems to be happening, get in touch and clear things up. The best way to know is to ask.
Who do you invite to a bachelor’s party?
The simple answer to his question is all the male family members and friends who are invited to the wedding. However, these days not everything is quite that clear cut. Here are a few things to ask the groom about the guest list if you are in charge of planning the bachelors:
- Do you want to invite all the guys to the bachelors, or rather keep it small with just a few of your best mates?
- Would you like us to split things up to accommodate older/more conservative family members? For instance, you could organise a daytime braai with the dads and uncles, and then continue into the evening with a party for the younger crowd.
- Do you want to invite guys who weren’t invited to the actual wedding? These days, many couples have smaller weddings, either because they want to keep things intimate or keep their budget more manageable, or both. As such, the bachelors can be an opportunity to include a few more people from their immediate circle. TOP TIP: If you do go this route, be sure to communicate clearly with the guests who aren’t invited to the wedding, to ensure that there are no weird vibes. E.g. ‘Hi there, you are invited to Frank’s bachelors. Because the wedding is quite small, he wanted to include you in this event since you are such a valued mate of his’.
- Contact details please! Take some time to sit down with the bachelor to get the cell phone numbers and email addresses of the people they want to invite to the event. Create a spreadsheet and input all the info so you have it all in one place.
TOP TIP: If you choose to create a WhatsApp group to share information regarding the bachelor’s party, make sure that you edit the settings so only the admin can send messages. Otherwise, the group can become an irritation, and people are likely to exit and miss out on important info.
How to select the perfect venue for your bachelor’s party
Next up - the venue. Choosing the perfect venue for your bachelor’s party is key because it sets the tone for the whole occasion. Here are a few ways to narrow down your options:
- What’s close by?
If you aren’t staying over, choose a venue that’s close by so you can easily Uber to and from, or charter a shuttle without paying an arm and a leg. Hazendal is situated within 30 minutes of Cape Town but still has that chill wine farm vibe, which makes it ideal if you’re looking to get out of town without making a major mission.
- What do you want to do?
Okay, so a bachelors is mainly about relaxing and having a few laughs but it’s also cool if you can have some fun on the day. Hazendal offers a 3-par course that can be played in under 5 hours, as well as a tech-forward driving range that’s tailormade for round-robin tournaments.
- What’s the food and drink setup like?
While organising your own food and drinks is one way to go, choosing a venue that can help out with all that makes for much less admin. The Pivnushka Beer Garden at Hazendal is a contemporary South African expression of a traditional European beer garden.
This historical-yet-awesome location offers flame-grilled fare, craft beer and Hazendal wines in a super relaxed setting. Perfect for a bachelors!
There you have it - a few important things to bear in mind when you consider the perfect venue for your bachelors. If you would like to know more about what we offer at Hazendal when it comes to bachelor’s parties, feel free to reach out to our event team. We will be happy to share some more insights to help you plan the perfect party.